The key to True Success: “Being Significant”
“The man who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare. The sure-thing boat never gets far from shore.” – Dale Carnegie To be truly successful requires discipline, will power, skills and more. Will power is one of the most important aspects of success. Success requires one to have the determination and resolve to pursue the vision and the dream. Michael Garofalo wrote “Willpower is the art of replacing one habit for another.” The drive caused by this phenomenon is also called the burning desire. To cultivate burning desire, you need to surround yourself with positive energies and be encouraged internally and externally to pursue your desire for success. To strengthen your resolve, you need to change your environment so that it would be conducive to supporting your vision. Success is also about our attitude towards life and the by-product of who we are as a person. To be successful we need to master personal leadership. Personal leadership is more than self-confidence, self-mastery or management skills. It is about our code of conduct and a way of being. It is about being aligned with our core values, having knowledge of our abilities as well as our challenges. The other aspect of personal leadership is to understand emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence includes empathy and compassion. Empathy is the basis for effective communication
and relationship. Daniel Goleman defines empathy as the ability to understand other people and identifying with their emotions. Goleman believes that empathy is the foundational skill for being a successful leader. However to be truly successful, one needs to understand and embrace being significant. In Man’s Search for Meaning Viktor Frankl writes “Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself.” Significance is about dedicating your life to a cause greater than yourself. With significance you will make a difference and influence others, which effectively makes you a truly successful person.